Are they caught up in the competitive nature of high school sports or travel teams and feel they are not getting enough playing time? Are they not enjoying the experience anymore and not sure what to do?

What do they ultimately have control of? Their thoughts, actions, attitude and effort. Quality of your thinking: What is in your control- Thinking well. Being optimal with your patterns of thought that lead to optimal states of being.

Are you afraid of whatever decisions they make, will not be the right one? How can you trust this process?

We argue over reality and we think our position is right. Is it?  We think our reality is actually right or our being right is important. Why is this? Is it worth being right all the time and having a bad relationship. Would you rather be right or would you rather connect? 

I’d like to understand what makes sense to him/her about this.  

I’d like to understand what he/she is trying to get across to me.

I’d like to see what he/she sees that I don’t.

I’d like to understand what he is not seeing that would help them

Do you wish they had more confidence within themselves? How could you go about changing this? How can your teen go about changing this?

Confidence can be learned and trained. Confidence comes from what we say to ourselves. (Self-Talk) “I can do difficult things”  Truth is: We are allowed to make mistakes. We can learn from them, “I’m capable of learning!  Key steps is to have credible self-talk that is rooted in:  Experiences that give you the right to say, “I can do difficult things.”

Do you want your teen to find ways to maximize their performance? Whether in the classroom, in athletics, the arts or in life? What does this mean to you?

Through the journey of self-discovery. Having clarity/figuring out who you are? What are your guiding principles? What do you stand for?  Investing in the quality of your thinking patterns, habits. Investing in the quality of your inner life. About “Being” more first and letting the “doing” flow from there.

Would you like to have someone to help you to discover how to expand your teens thinking in order to; think bigger, dream bigger, hold them accountable without judgement?

Giving them space and room to explore whatever their interest may be without judgement. They have to be responsible for their actions.  Teaching them through creating the right environment for learning. By modeling responsible behavior through our own actions. By helping them gain an understanding of “Responsibility” and by allowing them to experience how responsible and irresponsible actions affect one’s life.  

Do they feel they are not being heard by you or their peers?

How good are you at validating what they are going through and understanding their perception of a given situation even if you do not agree with it?